The term Oedipus complex by Sigmund Freud states (male children are attracted to the mothers, whereas boy children are attracted to their fathers). However one cannot draw conclusions that conflicts between mom and her girls is based on the above analysis. This cat and dog relationship is most often misinterpreted as jealousy or at times with a label on mom as “over controlling”.
When I look at life, it is so empty that at times I really wonder what one can really boast of accomplishing. Irrespective of that which we claim to be success in life, this may have no value unless we get out of our little comfort zone to initiate programs that bring transformation at every level.
I am convinced in my spirit a volume of our voices can compel world leaders to adopt a new path forward just as they address issues of international peace and security.
There is a need for a radical shift in how society views and treat Mothers and women in general. There may be a need for a creation of an international force to clamp down on other nations that neglect the well being of Mothers and Women.
What do you think? let your voice be heard.
Thanks Mom Is Gold.
After ready the above story, you are left with one question to answer.
What can I do to help women in Countries like this.
The truth is many people feel they can't impact the world because they are not celebrities or fall in the rank of people of high profile.
you can be the voice of this woman if you feel the pain. you can team up with Women that stand up for battered women or women inequality or champion a course by your self. Yes you can do an enquiry on what it takes to be of such help. Begin a program for change today in your community
Thanks Mom Is Gold
I grew up in a family of six and have witnessed my mother go through battery for more than twenty years. By now someone will be thinking she did not have to wait that long to make an exit but at times it’s hard to understand the grace others have in endurance and having trust faith and believing that someday the storms will be over. I also understand the cultural systems intertwined in marriage as well as socialization process that compels one to respond to circumstances of life based on experiences.
I remember how helpless we would stand in front of her locked bedroom and hear her scream for help. I remember how many miles I could run to seek for assistance from my uncle who is a pastor and lived twenty miles away and I could not afford for taxi money nor a cellphone to reach him for help.
It was so traumatizing and such a disgrace to us children who were at the forefront of church activities could not stand being ridiculed by other kids for what was going on with our parents. I remember seeing her weeping and cooking for us and at times trying to hide her pain and injuries from us. One time I returned home for holidays and realized she had almost lost her sight. Yet no help was at hand and though grown up, it is a taboo to lift up your hand against your parents or a curse to beat any of them. She had told us sometimes while subbing “I could have quit this marriage but for you” As time went on, she learnt to defend herself but this wasn’t enough. There was a social affairs office opposite our home but who cares about what marriage people go through in some countries.
It all came to an end, one day when my dad called for a meeting and said He had a dream and his late mother visited him and warned him never to exercise violence towards his wife nor his children. What a great smile and relief that we had as we began focusing on perfect forgiveness and prayers for healing of the family. Today, my mum and dad are still in marriage and love each other more and the days of the darkness cannot be remembered.
There are many mothers or women that are crying in secret like my mom did and are struggling to keep a vow or an oath based on religion, or culture. We have approached a 21st century era where humanity craves for more awareness on women’s rights, equality and protection. We cannot fold our arms in the face of these motherhood challenges that have caused some to sustain life injuries and even death.
Our Goal is to reach out through music to create more awareness and bring together men and women of integrity to the forefront of change for the benefit of Mom regardless of their cultural differences. We recognize political leaders and other NGO’s have made some genuine progress over the years but I suggest our way forward to assist mothers in less privilege communities with no access to 911 in a spontaneous outburst for change will be a new path forward in assuring mothers and women that their equality is taken to the next level. I believe in my spirit that you have a voice and can contribute in spreading this vision as well as supporting our efforts by buying our songs to give us to necessary resources we need to step out where ever in the world we can. 21st century society needs to recognize these challenges in the face of challenging economies and ramp up or accelerate efforts geared towards improving her wellbeing most especially protecting them from being victims of politico, economic and social shifts.
An educational platform is the only path towards sensitizing fathers to be more supportive and responsible. Treating their wives as a fellow human being, with love respect and the fear of the Lord. This will reduce single mother hood in our communities and give children to experience and have a balance upbringing.
My Dad addressed the community sometimes saying “battery is not the only medium to instill change or resolve marital disputes (husband love your wives for they are the weaker sex.
There is also a possibility that including a curriculum that will help teenagers to prepare to become responsible fathers and mothers may be considered as a possible step towards solving this great societal problem.
We will continue to embrace ideas and suggestions from the public and are open to individuals who have experience in dealing with mothers to step out with us as a voice in this new dispensation. ”We can do more for Mom”
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